Some Expert Life Advice – Trust Me.

I’m the friend that everyone else goes to with their problems. I get asked, “How are you so happy?” a lot. I’m going to tell you how. Here is how to be happy.

  1. Happiness is a mind set. Just like everything else in life, it’s a choice. You CHOOSE it. I’m not kidding. It’s that simple, but obviously there are many complications to sort through before you see it that way.
  2. STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. This is a BIG one. It’s so much bigger than people realize. I used to spend so much of my time focusing on what other people thought about me. It led me to walk on eggshells and to make choices about things that I hated. Once, I literally changed my entire outfit because my aunt was coming over and I knew she would hate it. I knew she would comment on it. And it wasn’t a horrible outfit. I just knew it wasn’t something she’d like. That’s INSANE. If someone isn’t personally contributing to your life, FUCK THEM. I mean it. Fuck them. Their opinion of you is irrelevant. And trust me, you’re not going to stop someone’s opinion of you. People come from stubborn stock. If they think something of you, let them. Just stop caring. It doesn’t affect you as much as you feel like it does, I promise.
  3. LET GO OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE. I mean it. Get rid of them. I know that people aren’t disposable, and it’s not always the answer to just get rid of them. But I’m pretty sure 95% of the time, it is the answer. I’ve been there. I’ve called some of the most negative people my best friend. It’s toxic and it’s keeping you down. Misery loves company. Get some new people. If they’re family, it’s a little bit trickier, but I can tell you it’s super logical. Just distance yourself a little bit. Just because they’re family doesn’t mean you have to have them in your life.
  4. YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP TO BE HAPPY. You don’t need anyone’s validation. I see this one the most. You stay with them because you don’t want to be alone, or you’re afraid to be financially independent or blah blah blah blah blah. Once again, toxic. And you don’t need that bullshit. There is nothing wrong with being single. It’s actually fucking exhilarating.
  5. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. Explore this world. There is so much to it. Do something that you could never picture yourself doing. Take a few risks. Make a couple mistakes. You’ll learn. You’ll grow. And you’ll have some kickass stories to tell all of your new friends. Which you will make. By getting rid of negative assholes and stepping out of your comfort zone.
  6. Pick your battles. This was a big one for me. I was always getting into some debate with someone about something. It was exhausting. I do have the weird off putting personality when it comes to making sure people are informed. I hate when someone talks out of their ass. I hate when they have this crazy opinion formed around other crazy opinions and they don’t care enough to look at the facts. Irritating. DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO GET INTO IT WITH THEM. I’ve learned this recently, and it’s made my soul a LOT happier. Just let it go. Unless you decide you absolutely can not. Then go for it. But that’s called choosing the battle. Which is “Stop caring about what other people think”s cousin.
  7. Mind your own business. Yes, you heard me. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. Stop worrying so much about what other people are doing. Focus on yourself.
  8. Small minds talk about people. Great minds talk about ideas. I love gossip just as much as the next person. I mainly love it because my life is tremendously drama free, so once in awhile, I like to hear about other people’s. So I get it. It can be entertaining. However, if you notice that you and the people you socialize with daily pretty much only talk about other people, then shame on you. You’re living a very simple and unfulfilling life. Talk about something else. You might surprise yourself.
  9. Do what makes you happy. Simple. You want something? Plan for it. Work for it. Don’t wait for things to just happen for you. Make things happen for yourself. It’s amazing and it’s much more rewarding. Work hard. Play hard. BE HAPPY.

 

There are a lot more things that lead to a happier life, but this is a really good start.

Pro Human Being.

I can get pretty political from time to time. You could say part of me loves the argument, but most of me just cares about the world and what happens inside of it. I care in copious amounts. I wish so many things could be fixed. So many things need adjusting.

The fact that abortion is even a political topic infuriates me. It puts me in a manic rage. I don’t believe that women’s bodies and what we do with our’s should be a campaign topic. I also don’t believe that men should even have a say. Which is a pretty big deal, because I’m a firm believer in freedom of speech. But men will never have to be in a position where they have to make a choice like that. They have no idea what women go through. So I feel like this is just something they should stay out of.

I understand that abortion is a sin. I get it. Jesus gets pretty upset when you kill your unborn child.
If this is your standpoint, please understand that I am speaking as a human being. Not as a religious person. Also, please understand that I respect your religion and the beliefs inside of it. This is not an insult to Christianity.

I don’t believe in abortion as a form of birth control. I think that if you are responsible enough to have sex, then you should be responsible and deal with the consequence of pregnancy and having a child if that’s the path you’ve found yourself on. Learn how to use a condom. Go on the pill. Whatever you have to do. If you don’t want kids, then practice safe sex. Seriously.

My cousin was pregnant. Her and her husband were so excited. She did everything by the book. She was eating right. Taking care of her body. Getting the right amount of sleep. She will make an amazing mother someday. Everybody was extremely excited for her baby to arrive.

Her baby was growing inside out. Inside of her. I can’t think of the actual medical term, but it was so upsetting. Bringing that baby to term would have potentially killed my cousin, and it was a 98% chance the baby wouldn’t make it either.

She was faced with a very hard choice. She could have taken her chances and gave birth and maybe died and perhaps damned her child to a horrible life of doctor visits and surgeries and medications and sleepless nights and more.

She didn’t want that. And who could blame her?

She chose abortion, and I’m sorry to say it, but it was the best course of action for everyone involved. I stand by her choice one hundred and ten percent.

And it wasn’t an easy decision. She struggled with the options for weeks. To this day, and it’s been over a year, she can’t even be around a baby without crying. She literally avoids any family functions where our other cousins bring their kids.

I’m not even going to pretend I know how it feels to have to make that choice. It’s heartbreaking enough watching someone else go through it.

And that’s not the only cases where abortion is a blessing. What would you do if you were raped by someone and they got you pregnant?
I know a lot of very strong people would keep the baby. Because it’s not the baby’s fault.
But do you honestly expect most people to be that courageous?
Because I don’t.
And they shouldn’t have to be.
It is their right not to be.

And that’s where I’ll end it. Just because abortion isn’t something you agree with, doesn’t mean you should take that right away from somebody else.

Pro choice doesn’t mean you agree with it. It just means you understand that you can’t make that choice for somebody else.

And a little food for thought: If abortion were ever made illegal again, it wouldn’t stop abortions from happening.

It would just stop abortions happening safely.

Please don’t put a woman in a closet with a coat hanger.

 

Can you be good without God?

Let me start by saying that this is not a debate on whether or not God exists.

I really don’t like religion. I have a very big issue with it. It’s caused a lot of wars and a lot of unnecessary hate. It’s divided people. It’s destroyed relationships. It’s really not something I waste a lot of my time with.

I respect religion. I respect it as far as the people who practice it go. I have respect for every single person clinging to their belief, because religion is their right as a person.

Can you be good without God?

My parents are both Atheist. They raised us to form our own opinions and beliefs. I love them for that. I really do. Because when you’re raised by people who teach you their belief, then you know nothing different. When you’re raised to think on your own, you do just that.

My parents raised us to do what is right. Stand up for what you believe in. Work hard for what you want. Treat people the way you would want to be treated. Black is just a color. Don’t steal. Don’t lie. Don’t hurt people. All people are people and deserve to be treated as such. Mind your manners. Be polite. Kill with kindness.

And that’s how I look at the world.

“Morality is doing what is right regardless of what you’re told. Religion is doing what you’re told regardless of what is right.”

So there’s your answer. You can be good without God.