Love is hard to come by.

How-to-love

Love is a tough subject. Because, let’s face it, everybody loves differently. Every single person has their own perceptions and opinions on what love truly means to them.

Personally, love is everything. Whether you’re applying it to people or interests or what you do on this Earth. It’s everywhere.

For example, I love the sky. I love the Earth. I love my family. I love my job. I love my dog. I love food. I love music. I love to sing. I love to live.

And I live to love.

I believe that love is absolutely one of the most important things we do in our lives.

But let’s focus on the people we love for a minute. Because a few things have come about in my life the past few weeks and it one hundred percent infuriates me.

My best friend in the world is married. Marriage, if you didn’t know, is a big deal. It’s a huge lifetime commitment. Marriage is you giving yourself and all that you have to one other person. You build a life together and make a family together. You grow together. At least, that’s what I was taught.

Now, I’m not married. So I’m not even going to pretend that I even know exactly what I’m talking about. But, for argument’s sake, this is my blog (insert playful laughter here).

My best friend is married. We will call her Sally and we will call her husband Brad. Sally and Brad have been married for about half of a decade now. They have a child together, but the child is not Brad’s. Brad knows this because he started dating Sally when she was quite noticeably pregnant. So that’s not an issue.

The issue is this; Sally does not give a shit about Brad. I will repeat that.

SALLY DOES NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT BRAD.

And Brad is a great guy. He has a good job. Makes good money. He supports Sally and the child they are raising together. Sally drives a very nice car (Thanks to Brad) and they live in a very nice house (also thanks to Brad). Brad cares about Sally and their child very much and would pretty much do anything to make them both happy.

Sally is cheating on Brad, has been cheating on Brad. And not just with one or two guys, no. Sally has cheated on Brad a LOT.

I hope I’m not losing you dear readers, because I promise I have a point and will be making it very soon.

This bothers me very much. Because you do not treat people like that.

Unfortunately, Sally was not raised under the best circumstances. She had a bit of a rough upbringing. She was never really taught how to properly love and treat other people, there by she has ended up as a very selfish and manipulative person. Of course, all of that isn’t her fault. But I have to wonder, because she would never treat me or any of her other friends that way. And if that’s the case, then why has she treated Brad this way?

Love is beautiful. Love is, as they say, patient and kind. Love is not proud or boastful. Love is not jealous or petty.

Love is wanting the best for another. Love is wanting another to be happy, no matter what that entails. Love is sacrifice. And love isn’t easy.

Love doesn’t cheat.

I really wish people would start to realize this.

I really wish people would learn how to love. I’m so fed up with watching us all run around and hurt one another. It’s not exactly the kind of world I want to live in.

I realize this has become more of a rant than anything else. I’m sure a lot of you out there would agree with me. And if that’s the case, then maybe love has a future after all.